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6 going on 16: 3 hacks to teach RESPECT
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It was like I woke up one day and my 6 yr old became 16!
Her language, her attitude, her talkbacks etc
This got me wondering - what did I do wrong?
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Am I too soft?
Should I have been more stern?
Was what I thought was mindful parenting actually opening a door for her to further bully her mother?
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Everyone has something to say about what I did wrong.
But whoever said any parent's perfect, right?
Aren't we all learning as we go along?
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Lately Chloe had been a little more than out of order - partly MCO? who wouldn't go a little nuts being stuck with their mother for more than 90 days right?
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So what do I do? I DM Child and Family Development Specialist Rachel Kwacz and lay it all on her! AND asked her for 3 hacks to "fix" this. So here we are, 1st episode of many, I hope, respectful mindful parenting with Racheal Kwacz and Serena (mostly Racheal of course ;)

(full video on youtube)

THANK YOU
wonderful Racheal, who didn't even hesitate, before saying YES to my manic questions - you are beyond AWESOME!!!

About Racheal:

Racheal Kwacz is a Child & Family Development Specialist, authentic leadership speaker and mama tribe writer. As a thought leader, Racheal has had years of international experience working with children, training teachers, leading and developing curriculum for childcare centres as well as being a parent educator. She specializes in equipping and empowering parents with tools for Respectful Parenting through “The RACHEAL Method”. Her most popular sold-out workshops include "Toddler Wars", "Preschool Wars", "Food Wars", and she recently led a dialogue with 180 pediatricians, obstetricians and gynaecologists on "Device Wars".

#Respectful #Parenting #Mindfulness

【玳瑚師父茶會課室】 《 第十場茶會回顧 ：學佛修行不出岔子》
10th Tea Session Recap : How Not to Go Wrong In Your Spiritual Cultivation
(English version below)

2016年3月17日，玳瑚師父特別挪出時間，舉辦了第十場茶會《以茶會友：學佛修行不出岔子》。

茶會開場時，玳瑚師父對出席者們說： 「如果妳你很會算，不如來算算妳你這一世，從妳你懂事以來到現在，累積的業障到底有多少。這一世能還完，才會有個美滿的人生。」

玳瑚師父舉例，《地藏菩薩本願經》所言： 「南閻浮提眾生，舉止動念，無不是業，無不是罪。」

人，會遇魔，不是平白無故，當中必有因緣，很多都是自找的，及不相信大善知識的教導，才會惹「魔」上身。

許多人學佛，因爲出發心不正，而後來魔障重重， 因此，茶會中旬，玳瑚師父要求出席者們，以華文寫出爲何要學佛。

在每位出席者用心地寫出自己理由的當兒，有位女士，只寫了四個字，再加上她先前遲到，師父有感她的行爲有欠學習的誠意。但，師父本身是個學佛人，爲了給她公平，將她的本子顯示給每位出席者看， 問她他們覺得女士的答案是否有誠意，衆人亦搖頭。

茶會入場免費，是玳瑚師父取之社會，用之社會的精神延伸，而並非他個人的時間不值錢。以此為列，請出席者一定要帶誠懇的態度和成熟的心智前來，並尊敬師父和大家的時間。

之後，玳瑚師父一一過目衆人的答案，並告訴每位出席者可以改進的地方，讓大家增進對自己的了解，獲益無窮。幾位出席者，聽取師父的教義，再接再厲，當場亦重寫自己的答案，再請師父過目，精神可嘉！

茶會精彩回顧：

一、 　人間八大苦

二、 　爲何心會煩燥？

三、 　着魔分哪三種？

四、 　六神無主，因此“她他”就來做妳你的主。

五、 　六神是什麽？

六、 　哪些生活習慣易陷入「魔」道，而不自覺？

七、 　今世貪慾成性，將輪回哪一道？

八、 　那位師姐身上陰霾之氣，竟然是來自居家的風水！

九、 　 有些東西不是去求得，是用智慧去觀磨的。

十、 　佛陀遇見「毒蛇」的故事： 農夫敵不過誘惑之魔的下場。

十一、 過份喜歡一個東西，就是着魔。

十二、 不要說不關我的事，這顯得妳你好像不慈悲。

十三、 修法一定要有次序！

十四、　身體裡的氣向出錯，也會導致着魔！

十五、 如果佛菩萨想要匿名隐居，就無人出来弘揚佛法，那我們也没有法門能解脱六道輪迴了！

玳瑚師父解讀活動： 出席者們爲何要學佛 ~

十六、 學佛要有廣大菩提心，沒有廣大菩提心，成不了佛！

十七、 皈依明師爲何如此重要？

十八、 上網盜法結果會怎樣？

十九、 學佛一定要心智成熟，不能半信半疑，起心動念都很重要。

二十、 心靈和肉體必須要協調。

二十一、 在玳瑚師父面前，不要撒謊，師父看妳你，是看到妳你的心裡面。

二十二、 我們都是有病的人，心靈都是殘障的，所以，我們需要佛法。

二十三、 師父講解何為真確學佛的答案。

玳瑚師父解讀活動： 出席者們的字跡分析 ~

二十四、 從何看這人做事虎頭蛇尾？

二十五、 常把字寫在角落頭，是個怎樣的人？

二十六、 他一定是個用情很深的人！

二十七、 師父如何看出這位男生前世是位出家人？

二十八、 從練字可以培養身心，可以成就事業，請閲讀師父文章《字裡行間》

玳瑚師父現場答客問 ~

二十九、 《金剛經》說無相離相，何以玳瑚師父說修法要有次序，豈不是有相嗎？

三十、 怎麽樣皈依？

三十一、　只唸佛，不是就能成佛嗎？

三十二、 皈依前，什麽都不能唸嗎？

三十三、 客人尋找某尊佛像，千辛萬苦，尋覓不得，問師父如何是好？

三十四、 客人的女娃，不吃不睡，體重過輕，師父慈悲指點孩童正確的睡覺方位。

等等，及更多。

此客人之前不苟同玳瑚師父的建議，認爲教導少年孩子佛法之事，可以「慢慢來」，結果，發心想立壇城時，通過各種管道，仍遲遲無法找到適合自己的佛像，彷彿佛也要「慢慢來」，才到她他們的家。貼心叮嚀大家，千萬別輕易拒絕善知識的好言相勸，這會為自己和家人求道的路上設下很多魔障啊！

學佛人要記得，妳你心中永遠都沒有敵人，有敵人，就會有縫，讓魔能夠趁虛而入。皈依學佛，是給自己一面鏡子來照自己的心，時時觀照，要不然，很容易變成魔的點心。

茶會結束時，幾位出席者們要求玳瑚師父為她們購買的書《向善向上》簽名。師父亦在書中以藏文寫了六字大明咒，獻給出席者們他的祝福。
這在藏地無人不知的咒語，是個光明的摩尼寶珠。此咒能破除黑暗，推毀魔障，是個吉祥圓滿的咒。

之前，一位女出席者與大家分享了她與玳瑚師父的書「共眠」一事。這位女眾提及自己一向都很難安心睡覺，往往，會對自己的環境有一種莫名的恐懼湧上心頭，讓自己更難入眠。那一晚的淩晨時分，當她再感受到那股既熟悉又神秘的恐懼時，她毅然決定把玳瑚師父的書放在自己身穿的外套裡，拉上拉鏈牢牢地套住。据她說，那晚的睡眠非常安詳！

一位年輕的出席者，吳勇康先生，讀到師父的文章《齊發力量扭轉乾坤》後，關心師父的健康，買了苹果供養他。師父笑言吳先生一定是希望「一天一苹果，醫生遠離玳瑚師父」。師父亦現場做供養，並將功德迴向給這位年輕人，感謝他，願他將來學佛有成，能夠利己利他。

茶會結束後，有些出席者意猶未盡，仍想繼續聼玳瑚師父解説佛法，于是，留了下來，與師父一同喝咖啡，聆聽師父說法，直到近清晨時分。那一晚的開示，讓在場的人，皆法喜充滿。但願她他們真正能夠學以致用，免得辜負玳瑚師父的一番苦心啊！

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On 17th March 2016, Master Dai Hu specially took time out from his schedule, to hold the 10th Tea Session with the theme, "How To Stay On The Right Path of Spiritual Cultivation?".

The session swung into action with these first words from Master Dai Hu, "If you are that calculative, why don't you start counting, from the day you were born in this lifetime, how much negative karma you have accumulated? Only when you have cleared these karmic debts, will you have a blissful life."

Master Dai Hu quoted from the Sutra of the Great Vows of Ksitigarbha Bodhisattva, "All sentient beings in the Daksina-jambudvīpa create karma and offenses endlessly with their every thought and behaviour."

A person does not encounter the Mara for no good reason. There lies an affinity, often self-inflicted, within. Many a time, he or she brought it upon himself/herself with his/her faithlessness towards the teachings of a virtuous master.

Many people learn the Dharma without the correct intention, and subsequently, had to face many obstacles and impediments from the Mara. Thus, in the middle of the tea session, Master Dai Hu requested for the participants to write down, in Mandarin, their reasons for learning the Dharma.

While everybody was diligent in writing their piece, one female participant only penned four characters. Prior to the exercise, she had came late for the Tea Session and Master Dai Hu could see her lack of sincerity in learning. Being a learned cultivator of the Dharma, and to show fairness to the lady, Master Dai Hu showed everyone the written note and asked if they thought if the female participant was sincere in learning. All the fellow participants shook their heads.

There is no fee charged for attending Master Dai Hu's Tea Sessions, as this is one way which Master Dai Hu gives back to the society. However, this does not imply that his time is worthless. Using this as an example, we do hope future participants come for the session with an attitude of sincerity and thought maturity, as well as respect for everybody's and Master Dai Hu's time.

Subsequently, Master Dai Hu went through each and every answer from the participants, and advised them individually how their mindsets can be improved. It was a beneficial experience for everyone, as the participants gained a more thorough understanding of themselves. Some of the participants even rewrote their piece after listening to the advice from Master Dai Hu, and consulted him again. Such spirit of willingness to learn is commendable indeed!

Highlights of the Tea Session:

1. What are the Eight Sufferings in the human realm?

2. Why do we experience vexation?

3. What are the three kinds of Mara disturbances?

4. If you have no control over your six spirits that rule your vital organs, another spirit shall intrude to take possession.

5. What are the six spirits?

6. What kind of daily habits will make you unknowingly susceptible to the influence of the Mara?

7. If one is addicted to desires in this lifetime, which of the six realms of existence is he likely to end up in his next life?

8. The aura of negative energy on a Dharma sister is caused by the Feng Shui of her residence!

9. There are some things that cannot be achieved by merely wishing for them. You have to use your wisdom and acumen to observe and learn.

10. The Buddha's encounter with the "poisonous serpent": Downfall of a farmer who could not resist Mara's temptation.

11. An obsession in liking something is a form of Mara disturbance.

12. Do not say "This is none of my business." as you will appear to be lacking in compassion.

13. The proper sequence must be observed in spiritual cultivation!

14. A disruptive flow of energies in your body can also result in disturbance from the Mara!

15. If the Buddhas and Bodhisattvas had craved for anonymity and stayed in recluse, no one would come forward to propagate the Dharma and we would be deprived of The Way out of Samsara.

Master Dai Hu's Group Activity - Why Do You Wish To Learn the Dharma?

16. To learn the Dharma well, one must possess great Bodhicitta. Without it, you will never attain Buddhahood!

17. Why is it so critical to take refuge in an accomplished Master?

18. What are the consequences of stealing the Dharma off the Internet?

19. One must have a mature mentality and not a doubtful nature, when learning the Dharma. We must be mindful of every thought and intention that arises within.

20. There is a necessity for the physical body and the soul to align and work in harmony.

21. Do not attempt to lie in front of Master Dai Hu, for he can look deep inside your heart and read you like a book.

22. We are all sick patients with disabilities in our souls. That is precisely why we need the Buddhadharma.

23. Master Dai Hu explained the correct intention one should have in learning the Buddha's teachings

Master Dai Hu Group Activity - Handwriting analysis of the participants

24. How do you tell that this person is one who starts strongly but often cannot last the entire race?

25. What kind of person tends to write his/her words at the corner of the writing space?

26. Such a person is definitely very devoted in his relationships.

27. How can Master Dai Hu tell that this man was a monk in his previous life?

28. A person can cultivate his/her body and spirit through handwriting practice, and achieve career success. Please read the article "In Between The Lines" by Master Dai Hu.

Live Q & A session with Master Dai Hu -

29. The Diamond Sutra expounds on the formless and the detachment from forms. Why does Master Dai Hu say that there must be a proper sequence in our spiritual cultivation? Isn't that a form?

30. How do you take refuge in the Triple Jewels?

31. Is it true that Buddhahood can be attained by reciting only the Buddha's Name?

32. Before taking refuge, am I not supposed to recite any mantra or sutra?

33. A client sought Master Dai Hu for his advice, after many difficult and futile attempts in their search for a particular Buddha statue.

34. A client's young daughter has not been eating and sleeping well, resulting in her being underweight. Master Dai Hu showed compassion by pinpointing the correct sleeping position for the toddler.

And many more.

The client couple previously did not agree with Master Dai Hu's suggestion to impart knowledge of the Dharma to their teenager children, and told Master Dai Hu that the children can "take their own time". As a result, when they intended to set up an altar in their residence, they could not find a suitable Buddha statue, despite trying many means and ways. It seemed like the Buddha is also "taking His own time" to go to their home. A gentle reminder to everyone: do not carelessly reject the advice of a virtuous Master, for this will set up many obstacles for you and your family on the path of pursuing the Dharma!

Students of the Dharma, remember this, there will never be an enemy in your heart. If you regard anyone as a foe, the Mara will creep into that crack in your heart. Taking refuge and learning the Dharma is like holding a mirror and looking at your own heart. If you do not self-reflect regularly, you will easily fall prey to the Mara.

As the Tea session came to a close, several participants came forward with Master Dai Hu's book, "Towards Kindness, Towards Betterment", to ask for his autograph. Master Dai Hu obliged and even hand wrote the Six Syllable Mantra, a ubiquitous mantra in Tibet, in Sanskrit in each book to convey his blessings for the participants. This is an auspicious mantra that is able to penetrate the darkness and destroy all impediments.

Earlier on, a female participant shared her experience of "sleeping" with Master Dai Hu's book. She had been having a hard time falling asleep peacefully, and often, an unknown fear of her surroundings crept up in her, making it even more difficult for her to sleep. In the middle of a particular night, when that mysterious yet familiar fear arose, she decided to go to sleep with Master Dai Hu's book tucked safely inside her zipped hoodie. According to her, it was a night of very restful sleep!

A young participant, Mr Samuel Goh, after having read Master Dai Hu's article "Together, We Can Turn The Tide", expressed his concern for Master's well-being and bought fresh apples, as an offering. Master Dai Hu joked that it must be Mr Samuel's wish that "an apple a day, keeps the doctor away from Master Dai Hu". As an expression of his gratitude, Master Dai Hu did a offering prayer on the spot and dedicated all merits to this young man. May he be an accomplished student of the Dharma and do great work that benefits himself and other sentient beings.

After the Tea Session ended, some participants were keen to learn more from Master Dai Hu. Hence, they stayed behind and had a coffee session with Master, which lasted till almost dawn. It was a session of Dharma bliss for everyone present. Master Dai Hu hopes that they put into practice what they have learnt from him, and not put his painstaking efforts to waste.

www.masterdaihu.com/10th-tea-session-recap-how-not-to-go-wrong-in-your-spiritual-cultivation/

Still getting the chills from this shit that happened today. (5.50pm, 15/2/15)

A Comfort taxi SHA7734U was right beside me and suddenly swerved into my lane. The camera has wide lens so it could clearly see him worming his way in but as a driver, I could not see it at all until last minute when he was already right smack in front of me. He did not signal at all, nor was there any space for him to get into my lane! I was forced to E-brake because of his reckless driving. Dash and my helper were in the car. I really shudder to think what would have happened if I couldn't stop in time and crashed into him.

Looking at this video, I don't know if he is just reckless and impatient or he recognized the car and was deliberately trying to do something funny to me. And he actually risked hurting a toddler for that?

I thought long and hard about whether to post this. Maybe he would lose his job or license. But I decided to go ahead because selfish assholes like this endanger the lives of everyone on the road. Today he missed hurting my child. Tomorrow he could kill another with that careless attitude of his.

If you are too impatient for traffic rules, you shouldn't have a license to drive AT ALL. Get off the f-ing road.

Hi Youtube Family,


Today’s Vlog:
Bickering Over Christmas,
Toddler Hogging Kisses
Holiday Blues,
Chilling With Tsang Family,
SLURPY SLURP!


This is officially going to be our last vlog of 2016. It's quite bittersweet as I type this. What an awesome year it’s been. 2016 was the year we moved into our dream house, visited the 2 schools we built together, toured Asia, raised more money to build 3 more schools, launched my signature eyeshadow palette and now in process of writing my own book. It’s been jam packed with opportunities and has probably been my busiest year yet. Couldn't have done it without you all by my side. Thank you for sticking by the Bubz family for yet another year.

I’m not proud to say I have been a bit of a grinch during the holidays. Unfortunately, I don’t handle well being around big crowds for long periods of time. I end up extremely emotional and I guess I “malfunction” by acting strange. It also meant that the littlest of things would get to me and guess who I took it all out on? Yep, poor Tim. Turns out being out of the house for the day was exactly what I needed to recharge. I took it as him kicking me out so I was mad at him at the time.

I stormed out and forgot to bring my keys and the day after, I was wondering how I return with dignity since I needed him to open the door for me. I realised I had been over dramatic. In the end, I swallowed my big fat pride and just apologised for my poor attitude over the holidays. He did too for retaliating. We realised the price of being right is too big to pay. Tim is happy to have his happy wife back. I’m disappointed at myself for being such a Debbie Downer over the holidays but I made sure to spend the remaining days of 2016 chirpy and grateful again.

We’re not doing much for New Years Eve. We're just going to be chilling at home as a family. We want to take this moment to wish everyone a HAPPY NEW YEAR!! May 2017 be another year to walk in love, gratitude and kindness. Remember, a positive mind brings a positive life. Always be hopeful.

Love, the Bubz family xo




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