關於 photography gifts for her ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

Thank you to,
@mandyleighhxo Makeup
@danieladamsphotography Photography
for allowing me to connect with myself through this shoot. To remind me to continuously create art 💕
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I started off last week with high energy and passion, wanted to start a weekly theme so I can share more of my creative ideas on this platform.
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But life seems to throw curveballs at me..and last week it hit me real HARD, again. For the last two years, I feel like I haven’t been able to truly pick myself back up. I keep getting knocked down..again and again. And it’s easy to lose hope in this process. To give in to the hurt and pain.
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It’s hard AF but I know deep down inside that I am not the same person that I am two years ago. Through it all, I found pieces of my strength that I never got to know.
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This is unfortunately not a fun TikTok post, but I don’t want to post another travel Insta photo just to share the good side. How can we navigate through life’s gifts of learning about ourselves if we only see perfection.
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I just think it’s so important for me to share the good and the tough. What I learnt this week, is that if I can put in an hour a day (or week) on working out, then I can put in an hour focusing on exercising my mental health. If I can spend two hours on Netflix, then I can spend two hours deepening my relationships (with my peers, family, partner).
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My BIGGEST lesson, I used to ask my myself;
“Why am I putting myself in these horrible situations?”
“Why do I allow people to treat me this way?”
“Why am I so insecure and am not as confident as her?”
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Now I see that these questions are mere reflections of what I’ve avoided to learn about myself..when they’re actually guiding me towards my strength. We’re so used to suppressing the ‘negative’, rather than allowing it to sit with us and to understand it.
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What I need to ask is,
“Which part of myself have I not accepted? Is this why I am hurt by that person?”
“Have I been neglecting myself? Is this why I have certain people in my life?”
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Now I see, that no matter how much you try to suppress the bad, it will always be there. But if we choose to work through it, we’ll already be living on the greener side of life.

SEPARATION ANXIETY | I’ve been working late a lot this week which means Ella Grace has really been struggling w getting enough mama time.

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What that looks like is:
More meltdowns than usual over very little seemingly insignificant things
Getting really jealous when I give anyone else attention
Refusing to go to bed and forcing herself to stay up as much as possible
Whining, crying as soon as she sees me
Making a lot more “defiant” choices

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What she’s really trying to say is:
I miss you mama, when are you coming home? Have you forgotten me?
I miss you mama, when you give other people attention, I feel rejected.
I miss you mama, I haven’t had enough time w you.
I miss you mama, I put on my listening ears all day and tried very hard and now that you’re home, I feel safe to finally feel all the things I needed to feel because I know you’ll hold space for me.
I miss you mama, where did you go?
I miss you mama, I’m trying to stay up as late as I can to see if I can wait for you.
I miss you mama, I really need to empty my sad cup so I’m pushing the boundary so you’ll make safe supported space for me.

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How it feels as a mama:
Guilty, so so very guilty 😭😭😭💔
Heartbroken because I know it’s not her fault and it’s so hard to navigate an adult working world with a child’s heart
Frustrated because I’m exhausted and really looking forward to come home to my usually joyful girl but who’s really struggling
Questioning all my career choices and why I even work and what is the point and can I quit and wah wah wah wah wah!!!!

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How I respond as a specialist:
Pour into my empty cup : hold space for me to work through my emotions
Just like Ella Grace, I need to HALT - hungry, angry, lonely, tired so try to give me what I need so that I can give her the mama she needs.
Connect, connect, connect - make time to connect w her in the mornings before she goes to school and if I can, in the evenings too.
Hold boundaries - Allow freedom within our boundaries but don’t change them because I feel bad. Instead, more than ever, she needs the security and assurance of knowing what to expect. Eg. No changing rules, allowing things they usually aren’t allowed to do, change plans, etc.
PLAY - All little one’s love language is rooted in play whether it’s touch, gifts, words of affirmation, quality time or acts of service. Children don’t say “Will you love on me?”, instead they ask, “Will you play with me?”. Making time for child-led play together w no aim other than just to connect is incredibly healing to the relationship.

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How to use the PLEASE tool to process her emotions:

PREPARE
Prepare her and let her know who, what, when, how, where, why of her schedule and people so it helps her understand, know what to expect, and feel more in control of the situation

LISTEN
Listen to her big feelings and small things. Take time to just sit with her and listen for what she is feeling, what her concerns might be, what she needs

EMPATHIZE
Really empathize without judgment or control. Trying to understand how she might be feeling and helping her identify all emotions behind her behavior (the iceberg!!!) with love instead of judgment.

ACKNOWLEDGE
Echoing how she feels even if it’s “wrong” or “irrational”. She needs to be heard not corrected or fixed. She’s operating from a hurt place, she wants to feel safe and validated and only empathy can really help her feel less threatened to help her move to her rational/logical brain.

SIT
Allow her to feel, tantrum, hurt, cry, scream, or feel whatever she needs to feel. It’s their way of expressing the things they need to express when they don’t have words. Create safe supported space for her to do so - the only rule is that I keep her physically safe from herself, others, and the environment, blocking her, holding her hands, giving her privacy away from others if it’s a public space. I stay with her with as much space as she needs. (This is honestly the hardest part as a mama, to just sit w her, stay calm and confident, echoing and empathizing, “doing nothing” but just trusting her.

EMPOWER
When she finally moves closer and is ready for connection and reasoning, that’s only when we have a conversation. We help problem-solve and lead her to find a way to feel empowered in the situation. What can you do when you miss mama? Who can you look for? What can you say? What would you like to do when I come home? What do you want to eat/play/read/etc when I’m gone? Let them lead this conversation, she may only be upset about one thing or she might want to go down the list. It’s completely up to her because it’s whatever she needs to feel like she is seen and heard and safe.

When she was younger, this was one or two really simple things, as she gets older and is able to verbalize more, it’s incredibly powerful and reassuring to watch her be able to take ownership on her own.

That’s really the heart of why I do what I do and teach what I teach. It’s leading with love and giving our little ones a voice and the independence to grow and know that they are loved, trusted, believed in beyond measure, whole, able, and competent.

What are some of your questions?

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Racheal Kwacz is a Child and Family Development Specialist, women’s leadership speaker and mama tribe advocate. As creator of the ‘RACHEAL Method’, she combines her 20+ years experience working with children in the USA and in Asia with the foundations of ‘Respectful Parenting’, leading parents and teachers around the world to raise kind, confident, compassionate, resilient little ones.

To learn more, follow and connect with her on ig and fb @rachealkwacz !

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Ps. This beautiful photo is courtesy of the incredibly talented Erica Knect from That Wild Road. I highly recommend her if you’re looking for gorgeous, in-the-moment, heart-felt family photography.

「世界為我開啟，讓你帶我遊歷」
　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　　

世界上的語言有兩種——「無聲與有聲」。
無聲的語言，需要開啟心眼，用心感受傳遞，
有聲的語言，需要開啟想像，大膽努力練習。

做為一位外景主持人，我相信除了流暢的口條，更重要的是，用心去閱讀體會那藏在深邃眼裡、銀白髮髻、交織掌紋間的無聲語言。八年，兩千九百多個日子裡，我搜集了如繁星點點的故事與感動，閃閃亮晶晶地在我心中的小宇宙。默願著有那麼一天，我一定要站上世界的舞台，與大家分享這些亮光，分享台灣的美好。

我很感恩雖然沒有大紅大紫，但一路上滿滿是貴人與奇蹟。今年我接下了一個新節目，我將帶著五大洲12位外國朋友來認識台灣與客家文化，此時，有聲語言變得十二萬分重要，曾經短暫擔任過國小英文老師的我，用英語來表達並不陌生，但是要更精進絕對需要更有系統的學習，謝謝 TutorABC 為我開啟了新的學習大門，透過線上課程，我可以隨時隨地進入學習的情境中。

於是這天我來到美麗的北海岸邊，開始我的第一堂英文課，熱愛大自然的我，也能藉此忙裡偷閒，更重要的是，終於有這機會我能帶外國朋友看看台灣的美了！

Teacher Madison住在英國劍橋，透過螢幕鏡頭，我看見她教學的熱情與喜悅，我也藉著簡單的英文語句，跟她說此時我在這太平洋的寶島上，那海有多藍，那陽光的味緒多和煦，那礫石的觸感有多親膚，那男女老少有多熱情。

我選擇戶外活動的課程單元，課前TutorABC會先提供課程內容，讓我可以提早預習。上課過程中，Madison先帶我認識每個單字的解釋，再藉由生活經驗的分享，引導我自在地用英語來表達，最後的學習評鑑也順利地將我的學習進度完整紀錄！

我們說說笑笑，也用英文交換彼此眼前的美好景物，有幾度我眼眶紅紅，也許是橘紅夕陽映眼的關係吧，當她說起受教育的過程中，她一直都知道太平洋上有一個美麗的寶島，叫作「Formosa Taiwan」，而她也一直期待著有天能夠來台灣旅行，我們靜默了幾秒，同聲說——
So glad to meet you here today through
TutorABC！

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學習新的語言可以是一件很快樂的事，只要我們願意將多餘的思慮放一旁，找到童年時跟著大人牙牙學語的純真與熱情。TutorABC幫我們找回那份對於語言學習的動力，但是首先要打開你的心，用心感受，大膽學習吧！

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“You opened my door to the world, and accompanied me on this global journey”


There are two kinds of languages; one is conveyed by sound while the other one is utterly silent. The “silent” language is perceived by an observant and open heart. On the other hand, a language with sound requires a wild imagination and relentless training.

As an outdoor TV host, I believe that what matters, besides speaking eloquently, is to read between the lines and to be aware of the stories in our elder’s eyes, silver hair buns, and intertwined fingerprints. During the past 8 years of my career, I collected a plethora of anecdotes, and they are just like sparkling stars in my little universe. I hope someday I can stand in front of a big crowd and show everyone these stars, which represent the gifts of Taiwan.

I am eternally grateful for those heroes and miracles along the way, even if I didn’t make it big. This year, I am hosting a new TV program. I will introduce Taiwanese and Hakka culture to twelve foreign friends from five continents. Because of this, my language skills are crucial to the success of the program. I am familiar with communicating in English since I have been an elementary school English teacher. However, in order to reach a higher level of proficiency, I need to learn in a more systematic and organized way. Thanks to TutorABC, I found a new gateway to learning, and through their online courses, I can always start learning regardless of time and space.

So, one day I came to the gorgeous northern coast, and started my first English class. As a nature lover, I can also release my stress from work. Not to mention, I finally had the chance to introduce my foreign friends to the beauty of Taiwan and its natural scenery.

Ms. Madison, my teacher, lives in Cambridge, United Kingdom. Via the camera of her computer screen, I saw her joy and enthusiasm in teaching English. With a few simple English sentences and phrases, I described the sight of this gifted island on the Pacific Ocean: the azure sea, the blazing sun, the textured rocks, and the elated people.

I chose the course related to outdoor activities. Before class, TutorABC will provide me with course material for previewing. During class, Ms. Madison will introduce the definition of the words, and encourage me to use those words to share my stories and experiences. Before the class ends, a learning assessment will be conducted to record my current progress.

We chatted, laughed, and used English to share the breathtaking view in front of us. Occasionally, my eyes were slightly red, probably due to the orange sunset that projected onto my eyes. Ms. Madison talked about her school years, and how she always knew that there is a beautiful island named “Formosa Taiwan” on the Pacific Ocean. She always looked forward to visiting Taiwan. After a few seconds of silence, we said to each other simultaneously, “So glad to meet you here today through TutorABC!”

Learning a new language can be very joyful and rewarding, if we are willing to forget all the excessive concerns and recollect the pure enthusiasm of learning our mother tongue from adults when we were still children. TutorABC can help us find back that motivation for learning language, but first, we ask you to open your mind, observe with your heart, and learn without fear!

Photo Joseph Cheng Photography - Shape, no other