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Not Impressed by the Reputations of Men

“God had given me a clear revelation to go and confer with the other apostles concerning the message of grace I was preaching to the non-Jewish people. I spoke privately with those who were viewed as senior leaders of the church. I wanted to make certain that my labor and ministry for the Messiah had not been based on a false understanding of the gospel...Even the most honored and esteemed among the brothers were not able to add anything to my message. Who they are before men makes no difference to me, for God is not impressed by the reputations of men.” (Galatians‬ ‭2:2, 6‬ ‭TPT‬‬)

I love the apostle Paul’s mindset. He was not ‘starstruck’ by Peter, James, and John.

Whereas others would have been intimidated by the fame and reputation of the apostles in Jerusalem, Paul wasn’t.

He was led by God to go and meet them, and the only reason he wanted to speak with them was to confirm that he was preaching the correct Gospel.

Paul valued praise from God, not the praises of men.

If God is not impressed by the reputations of men, then as His children we shouldn’t be impressed too.

There is no need to feel intimidated when speaking to someone with a glorified title.

“When he went into the house of one of the rulers of the Pharisees on a Sabbath to eat bread, they were watching him.” (Luke‬ ‭14:1‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

Jesus went to a party where the most respected Pharisees were, and He still spoke straightforwardly, without mincing His words. He was not afraid to speak the truth, even if it offended reputable men.

“He spoke a parable to those who were invited, when he noticed how they chose the best seats, and said to them, “When you are invited by anyone to a marriage feast, don’t sit in the best seat, since perhaps someone more honorable than you might be invited by him, and he who invited both of you would come and tell you, ‘Make room for this person.’ Then you would begin, with shame, to take the lowest place. But when you are invited, go and sit in the lowest place, so that when he who invited you comes, he may tell you, ‘Friend, move up higher.’ Then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at the table with you. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.” He also said to the one who had invited him, “When you make a dinner or a supper, don’t call your friends, nor your brothers, nor your kinsmen, nor rich neighbors, or perhaps they might also return the favor, and pay you back. But when you make a feast, ask the poor, the maimed, the lame, or the blind; and you will be blessed, because they don’t have the resources to repay you. For you will be repaid in the resurrection of the righteous.”” (Luke‬ ‭14:7-14‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

Jesus’ words above are essentially meaning that the guests at the party were pretentious hypocrites, all trying to curry favor with the rich and famous. Think about how offensive these words would be to most people at the party.

We are a new creation in Christ in contrast to the children of Adam. We are the new and improved version 2.0. Children of Adam are transgressors, whereas children of God are royal priests and heirs of His estate.

Even the wealthiest unbeliever is only like a piece of firewood, due to be thrown in the unquenchable fires of Hell when he dies.

As for speaking to fellow believers, God’s word says that we are one in Christ and that titles don’t matter—we are all of equal standing. We are all saved by one Lord, born-again of the same Spirit, and none of us earned this salvation—it’s all by grace through faith.

“For you are all children of God, through faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as were baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians‬ ‭3:26-28‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

Don’t get me wrong, Paul respected the office of apostle which Peter, James, and John held. These positions are given by God. Paul also teaches us to respect the governing bodies and submit to them for the Lord’s sake.

We should also respect our leaders in church for the sake of the offices that they hold since they are ordained by God. Give them proper honor for the sake of the office. Submit to those who have the authority over us, as this authority was given by God.

However, we don’t need to fear reputable men. You don’t have to shrink back, feeling like you are somehow less important, less worthy, or less loved. God loves you even as (as much as) He loves Jesus—that’s how important you are to Him!

If people abuse their office of authority and mistreat you, they themselves will be accountability for it before Jesus. Maybe their eternal rewards will be given to you instead, to restore you for the injustice.

“Jesus answered, “You would have no power at all against me, unless it were given to you from above. Therefore he who delivered me to you has greater sin.”” (John‬ ‭19:11‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

No one can harm you when God is protecting you. Men have no power of their own. Therefore, be bold and have confidence in Christ. Straighten your shoulders and back, and raise your chin up. Be set free from the fear of reputations of men!

I shared more about the time when Jesus went to that Pharisee’s party in my book “Messiah’s Miracles: The Power of Having Faith in Jesus Christ”. Did you know that He healed a man with dropsy there? There is a spectacular lesson in it. See God’s Grace and love towards you in all the 37 recorded miracles of Jesus Christ, and let faith arise for your own supernatural breakthroughs: https://bit.ly/messiahs-miracles

Good morning!

Here's a little sample of our RMO schedule! We're technically on day 17 of voluntary self-quarantine and have a little routine going-on which has been so pivotal to everyone's sanity!

Having a structure helps to manage expectations allowing for lots of freedom within boundaries, a key principle of Respectful Parenting. It helps everyone take ownership with a semblance of control over all the things we can't control!

One of the big things (that I highly recommend!) we did as a family when we knew we would have to potentially self-quarantine for 4-6 weeks with our family medical history as well as with my work travel was sit down as a family and talk about what was important to us.

We live in a 1500sqft apartment and haven't left these four walls. 😅😅❤️ We have a balcony but other than that, we've not gone to other public common areas which made it very important that we make our home, a safe, loving, fun, haven instead of prison walls.

The best way for success was for all of us to talk about what was important to us. What we needed on the schedule to find our happy.

For mama and daddy, it was making sure that we had set time for us to work and for Ella Grace, she wanted to have morning meetings and a few other special mentions like morning snuggles, cooking together, play time.

This is by no-means a be-all ends-all, it will look different for every family depending on what you and your littles find important. The key is just that with a structure and framework, it allows everyone to breathe and create, have fun and be present without worrying about what's happening next which is especially important for little ones.

This schedule while very thought out, is flexible. We don't micromanage at all and there are no set times where something has to be done at a specific time (outside of her medicine schedule!). Listen to your gut, mamas. It's your superpower!

Ps. Can you tell which part of the day this picture was taken?

I wrote it up on our "command center" which are these giant sliding glass doors that we have in our kitchen. We use chalk pens and write our favorite quotes, grocery list, schedule, family goals, etc and it's easily wipeable!

On the left are "special" things that we get to do by the day along with suggestions on play ideas if she's stumped and on the right, our running schedule that I want to reiterate again, looks very long and complicated but is just more of a loose framework and structure!

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RMO SCHEDULE

❤️ Morning snuggles
A loving quiet start for everyone, good morning hug or snuggles or just quiet time together as they wake up

❤️ Make breakfast with daddy
Ella Grace's favorite time w daddy - they make coffee and breakfast together. While not limited to this, because breakfast is usually her choice, I also list down some options to help her.

❤️ Medicine
Ella Grace has daily medicine that she has to take so putting it on the schedule helps her get a sense of what happens when since much of our routine has changed. It also helps everyone not forget!

❤️ PLAY!
Such an important part of her day, we allow for lots of time for free play and exploration. She plays independently and happily while daddy and mama work.

Her favorite options include dress-up, role-play, restaurant, construction, magnatiles, podcasts, games, art table, dancing, scooter, forts, obstacle course, sensory etc.

She has free run on our little apartment and her imagination is her limit. Freedom within boundaries!

❤️ Movement
We try to move together as a family everyday for at least 20-30mins of vigorous activity. Movement helps your brain get to a theta state which helps with focus and understanding new information which is great for both adults that need to work and littles that need to play and learn!

Movement when you're shut it also helps regulate your hormones and keeping your body active will not just help you feel good physically but also mentally.

Some of our favorite ways to move together are family yoga, dance party, zumba, workout video, HIIT circuit, etc

❤️ Morning snack
Studies have also shown that a good snack or meal after activity helps little ones to sustain this theta state longer.

Also, mama is hungry and doesn't want to be hangry!

❤️ Morning meeting
This was beautifully one of the biggest requests Ella Grace wanted when we asked what was important to her. It's a little circle time that she usually has at school and it gives everyone safe space to come together, talk about what's on their mind or what's happened, as well as sets up expectations for the day by going through what day it is, what our plans are, etc.

❤️ Play/work
Another space to independently work and play and using some key Respectful Parenting principles after connecting (morning meeting, family movement, snack etc) to disconnect.

Fueling up their love tanks allows this space to largely remain uninterrupted, productive, and happy!

❤️ Lunch
We usually have a simple lunch - sandwiches, wraps, leftovers, soup and rice, one-pot meals, etc

❤️ Nap
Ella Grace cleans up and changes into her pjs for a little nap after lunch. She has a little eye mask and sleeping bag that she drags out to the living room sometimes to be close to us while we work or she might take a nap in her room or our room.

Our boundary is just that her body has to rest so we are quite flexible and work with her so she feels like she has some amount of ownership in it which helps with cooperation!

❤️ Afternoon snack
We take a little break together and have an afternoon snack/tea/coffee and just check in with one another (there's that connect to disconnect again!)

❤️ Play/work
Ella Grace usually spends this time playing but mostly lots of movement-based play like dancing, scooting, rocking/jumping on her balance board, etc

❤️ Cooking/TV time
I start preparing dinner and Ella Grace usually will help me cut, wash, etc and when she's done helping, she gets a little tv time while I finish up. Her favorite shows currently are The Wiggles, Hi-5, Fireman Sam, Paw Patrol

❤️ Dinner
Mealtimes are special for our family. It's our chance to connect and eat together so we try to really be present. Put our phones away, sit down at the table or if we're having dinner outside, on the mat or bench together, set up and clean up together so it's a family activity.

❤️ 20-min shakedown
This is a fun clean-up game that we play at the end of the day. We set up a timer for 20mins and quickly try to clean up as much as we can.

The only rule is that at the end of 20mins we stop and walk away. It makes the clean-up less overwhelming and also elicits participation from everyone because there is a certain end time that doesn't get extended no matter what, making it much easier to get everyone to participate the next time too.

You'd be amazing how much we can get done in 20mins! In our little apartment, having free reign to play throughout the day allows us to not have to micromanage but also not go nuts from the mess. We pick up here and there throughout the day but the 20min gives us a nice reset for the next day while making it not feel like a big task.

❤️ Movement
We usually have some sort of movement - epic dance party is one of our very favorites. If it's been a very busy tiring day, we might play a song and stretch, meditate or do wind down yoga instead. There are no hard and fast rules, just again time to move and listen to our bodies.

❤️ Bath/Shower
Ella Grace takes her own shower and this is also usually when she brushes her teeth, takes her medicine, etc.

❤️ Night Meeting
Similar to morning meeting, it's a little circle to come together and debrief from our day together. We usually play Happy/Sad/Grateful which is the highlight for everyone. We do a little breathing and love shower after, read a few books then end with prayer before Ella Grace goes to bed and mama and daddy get some mama and daddy time!

Hope this helps!

Enjoying Favor with God and Man

“When he went into the house of one of the rulers of the Pharisees on a Sabbath to eat bread, they were watching him. Behold, a certain man who had dropsy was in front of him. Jesus, answering, spoke to the lawyers and Pharisees, saying, “Is it lawful to heal on the Sabbath?” But they were silent. He took him, and healed him, and let him go. He answered them, “Which of you, if your son or an ox fell into a well, wouldn’t immediately pull him out on a Sabbath day?” They couldn’t answer him regarding these things. He spoke a parable to those who were invited, when he noticed how they chose the best seats, and said to them, “When you are invited by anyone to a marriage feast, don’t sit in the best seat, since perhaps someone more honorable than you might be invited by him, and he who invited both of you would come and tell you, ‘Make room for this person.’ Then you would begin, with shame, to take the lowest place. But when you are invited, go and sit in the lowest place, so that when he who invited you comes, he may tell you, ‘Friend, move up higher.’ Then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at the table with you. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.”” ‭‭(Luke‬ ‭14:1-11‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

Have you ever had dinner at the same table with a renowned world leader? Perhaps you’ll make sure to dress your best, put on your best mannerisms, show your best side and all these efforts are just to please men to gain their favor for an ulterior motive, or because you’re afraid of what they would think if you don’t behave as expected.

It’s just like our Lord Jesus to attend a party held by a so-called important person and turn it upside down!

Amidst all the bootlickers who wanted to curry favor with the ruler of the Pharisees, Jesus didn’t care about anyone’s prejudices.
He set His sights on someone He could heal—Jesus was going to do it whether the pretentious religious leaders felt comfortable about it or not.

Jesus didn’t come to play politics or to be liked by the masses. He came to save us to the uttermost, regardless of what has to be done.

If Jesus had a PR manager, that person would greatly advise against healing someone on the Sabbath, in the house of the ruler of the Pharisees. That’s like choosing to offend everyone at once—a major PR disaster.

None of the guests dared to answer Jesus—they were all ensnared by the fear of man’s opinions.

“The fear of man proves to be a snare, but whoever puts his trust in Yahweh is kept safe. Many seek the ruler’s favor, but a man’s justice comes from Yahweh.” ‭‭(Proverbs‬ ‭29:25-26‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

Oftentimes, we are also afraid of being judged by others and worried what others would think of us.

However when it comes to doing the right thing in God’s eyes, versus pleasing men who don’t care about you that much anyway, we can rely on the Holy Spirit to empower us to do what’s right, even when it’s not the popular choice.

Just because everyone else is compromising, doesn’t mean you have to do it too just to fit in.

Let’s use a rather sensitive example: Premarital sex. If you’re still a virgin and you’re intending to stay that way until after marriage, good for you!

You don’t have to be sleeping around like people of the world, just because the ‘cool’ ones are doing it—they have no self-control and are ignorant about the harm they are inflicting upon their own bodies (forming unwanted connections in the flesh).

“Don’t you know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them members of a prostitute? May it never be! Or don’t you know that he who is joined to a prostitute is one body? For, “The two”, he says, “will become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit. Flee sexual immorality! “Every sin that a man does is outside the body,” but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” ‭‭(1 Corinthians‬ ‭6:15-18‬ ‭WEB‬‬)

Perhaps you are like the man with dropsy, who couldn’t even join in the pretentious game with the other religious leaders.
Even if he could gain the favor of the ruler of the Pharisees, what could he possibly do for him?
That mortal ruler didn’t have the power to rid him of the swelling in his body.

The man’s swollen body must have caused him to be embarrassed and ashamed. No matter how hard he tried to fit in and act like the rest, he would always stick out like a sore thumb.

Maybe you’re a straightforward person who can’t stand to think before you talk or be tactful when you speak or act—you just don’t fit in.
Or it could be that you’re a non-conformist who can’t bring yourself to follow the crowd and it’s trends—and for that, nobody wants to be associated with you.

Well, Jesus healed that man with dropsy. If anyone was happy at that awkward party, it was the man who received his healing!
You don’t even have to read any books about the 10 steps to make people like you.
Just like how Jesus took the man and initiated the healing miracle, He will also take you and transform you without your own efforts.
The man with dropsy thought he was going for a party to try and gain favor from the ruler, when actually the true Ruler of Heaven and earth chose to favor him.
It’s by God’s goodness, not your obedience—just believe that.

Jesus pulled the religious masks off the religious leaders’ faces when He asked the question about the son and the ox falling into the well.
If it was the ruler of the Pharisee’s son that fell in a well, do you really think he would care that it was a Sabbath day?
He would ask his servants to get his son out of the well immediately.

Religiosity is hypocrisy. It has the outward appearance of holiness but the moment something is against his fleshly interests, the religious person compromises on the laws he demands others to follow.

Jesus proceeded to give wise advice. Instead of trying to please men and gain their favor with your self-efforts, rely on God to give you favor with them.

The moment you cease from trying to be liked, fit in or become popular and just rest in God’s favor that’s always upon you, God can give you uncommon favor with the right person who can turn the whole situation around for your good.

That’s one of the ironies of life. The harder you try to be liked, the more dislikable you are to others.
But when you don’t try at all and just humbly rely on God’s favor, He will exalt you in the sight of all.

In other words, don’t focus on moving up to a higher place—you’ll end up thinking too much about it and trying hard to reach it by your own efforts.

Set your eyes on Jesus who is seated far above all kingdoms and dominions, and He will give you the wisdom, power and favor to unconsciously move up higher while you’re still transfixed by His perfect majesty!

Today’s Spiritual Exercise:
Need someone to favor you? Confess that you have favor with him or her because God is on your side to give you favor with all men. You don’t have to earn it—just receive it by faith.

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In this video, I will show you how to enjoy Yakiniku indoors :D

Last week, I won a package of beef at the recipe contest. And along with the beef, I received a letter with some tips to enjoy Yakiniku indoors and I never knew them! So, I will share those tips with you!!!

Yakiniku is mostly beef but you can make it with chicken or pork or meat of your choice ;)

BTW, in Japan at home, we usually use electrical barbecue called "hot plate " to cook Yakiniku at table. I really envy those who have barbecue set at home! We don't have that big yard in Japan, you know... And sadly, from this April, our closest BBQ spot is going to close because of the littering problem.

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Yakiniku Indoors (Japanese Grilled Meat / BBQ)

Difficulty: Very Easy
Time: 10min
Number of servings: n/a

Ingredients:
beef or meat of your choice
soy sauce + wasabi (in tube or freshly grated)
ponzu sauce (citrus-flavored soy sauce: you can mix 1 tbsp. soy sauce and 1 tbsp. lemon juice to make it)

Tips:
1. Color of the Meat:
Pink, red, brown, or etc... what color of the meat is the best?
To answer this question, it is difficult to tell which is better until you eat them. So just ask the butcher and trust them. hehe
2. The best way to cook Yakiniku:
Make sure you let the meat get back into room temperature before you cook. You will see the surface of the meat shining with its own juice and grease when it's ready. Then you don't have to turn the heat down to low to cook and you won't lose any good flavor! That is why outdoor barbecue is always good (because your meat is at room temperature). Of course it is the best if you have BBQ grill set at home, but if you don't, you can use a grill pan, cast-iron skillet, or fryingg pan on the stove, because the key is the meat temperature! It is the same for Sukiyaki, Shabu-Shabu, steaks, etc...
3. The best way to eat Yakiniku:
Don't forget to season the meat with salt and pepper before you cook. That definitely brings out the flavor of the meat. For the sauce, wasabi soy sauce or ponzu sauce is the best! Simple yet delicious! You have to try it out.

*Grill the meat until it's done to your taste!

レシピ（日本語）
http://cooklabo.blogspot.jp/2012/03/blog-post_31.html
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I hope you found this video informative!!!

Food Products I used:
- Sandagyu or Sanda Beef (三田牛）
パスカルさんだ 2012年3月 最優秀牛
http://www.sandaniku.com/sale/20123.html
The three top brands of Wagyu (Japanese beef) is Kobe beef, Omi beef, and Yonezawa beef. Sanda beef is the premium kind of beef in Kobe!
三田牛（さんだぎゅう）は、兵庫県の三田市で肥育・商品化（解体処理）された食用の牛のこと。黒毛和種の和牛であり、神戸牛と同じく但馬牛を素牛とする。
- Kamada Ponzu Shoyu (鎌田 ぽん酢醤油)
http://www.kamada.co.jp/shop.3.70.php
http://www.kamadafoods.com/
- House Wasabi (ハウス 特選本香り生わさび)
http://housefoods.jp/products/catalog/cd_83375.html

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