【別以爲孩子不完美就不能有自己的成功】
Don't Assume That An Imperfect Child Will Never Have His Own Success
我教書，從小學到中學級別，斷斷續續有十年。
我學命理堪輿超過十五年。
在我家族裡的孩子，還未到十歲，每個幾乎都有十八般武藝，生活能力特別強，就算是女生也特別獨立。
因為這幾種經驗的結合，對於如何栽培孩子的潛能我特別有心得。
在我眼裡，每個人都是佛，所以有無限的可能，孩子也一樣。
但諷刺的是，有時父母反而成為孩子的絆腳石。他們會把自己思維的侷限套在孩子的身上，斷了孩子未激發出來的潛能。
怎麼會這樣？
因為父母本身的八字潛能，也從來沒有被他們的父母激發過，因此成了這惡性循環。在忙於工作和兼顧家庭的無頭蒼蠅日子裡，他們又有何能耐和知識去做這些看似吃力不討好的事呢？
我批的孩童八字當中，有自閉兒、過動兒，有先天缺陷如聽力障礙、語言障礙等，學習過程會比一般孩子來得艱辛。
孩子還未進小學，要嘛就是父母因為這孩子而影響了婚姻，要嘛就父母覺得這孩子不行了，將來做什麼工作就將就吧！
今世的先天缺陷是前世惡因結的果，不該代表孩子的這一世就是死刑。
六歲前為孩子看八字和風水，對孩子的學習人生有很大的補助。三歲前，更佳。
破繭而出的蝴蝶，才能展翅高飛，而不是你打著真愛的口號，拿把剪刀去剪破毛毛蟲的繭。
父母是孩子的第一任老師，如果你們不懂得改善自己的命，你的孩子也會很容易向命運低頭。
愛孩子，就請告訴他們，人生的選項沒有必要鎖在ABCD，我們可以自己創造XYZ。
成功不只是有一種定義。
無論您是一位老師還是一位家長，我大力推薦大家去看這部適合一家大小一起看，由鄧超主演，挑戰我們華人社會對教育和親情習以為常的觀念的大陸電影《銀河補習班》。
看了之後，深入的去思考：我們追求有個孩子真正的意義應該是什麼？
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I have ten years of intermittent teaching experience, from primary school level to secondary school level.
I have also learnt Chinese Metaphysics for over 15 years.
In my family, before the age of ten, almost every child would have acquired a lot of life skills. Even the girls in our family are especially independent.
Because of these myriad experiences, I have my unique insight on how to cultivate the potential of children.
I see everyone as a Buddha, thus having infinite potential. The same goes for children.
Yet ironically, sometimes parents, the people who proclaimed the loudest that they love their children, are the exact ones who tripped their children in Life. They impose their limiting mindset on their children, disrupting the undiscovered potential of their children.
Why so?
Because the potential in the adults' Bazi was also never unearthed by their parents, thus forming a vicious cycle. In the daily grind of juggling family and work, running around like a headless chicken, how will they have the patience and knowledge to do such seemingly thankless acts?
In the children's Bazi I have analysed, some have autism, ADHD, listening or speech disabilities etc. Their learning process will understandably be more difficult than normal children.
Thus even before the child enters primary school, the parents would either face marriage disharmony or think that the child should just settle for any decent job in the future.
Born disabilities of this life are the fruits of our past-life karmic deeds, but this should not mark a death penalty in the child's destiny this lifetime.
To get the child's Bazi analysed and Feng Shui audited before age 6 can have enormous positive effects on the child's learning path. Even better if before age 3.
The butterfly that breaks out of its cocoon on its own is able to take flight, but will be crippled when you cut the caterpillar's cocoon with a scissors in the name of supposed true love.
Parents are the first teachers in a child's life. If you do not know how to change your destiny, your child will bow down to Life easily.
If you love them, please let them know life does not have to be restricted to ABCD options. We can create our own XYZ choices.
Success has more than one definition.
Whether you are a teacher or a parent, I recommend you and your children to watch this inspirational China movie on challenging Chinese societal norms in parenting and education, Looking Up (銀河補習班), starring Deng Chao.
And think in depth, what should be the real meaning in having children?
