[Bagaiman Kahwin Kerana Allah]
Bagaimana untuk kita berkahwin kerana Allah? Cakap senang tetapi bagaimana? Perkongsian ini ditulis oleh seorang Muslimah bergelar muallaf;-
"Bukan kahwin dgn niat nak cari kebahagiaan dunia (dgn pelbagai top criteria yg dunia look at nowadays, cth: kena ada rmh br boleh kahwin mcm org cina non muslim) ttp ia tidak menafikan yg bakal suami mesti mampu utk jaga diri sendri @ keluarga( bg calon yg dah berkahwin sebelumnya) sebelum langkah ke alam perkahwinan baru. At the same time usaha n put trust in Allah that He will provides and He knows best in everything He do.
Perkahwinan yg boleh membawa anda lebih dekat dgn Allah despite he or she is not ur criteria(kalau dr pandangan dunia) Kalau dlu kan kita nak lelaki ada ni ada tu muka mcm Andy Lau & sebagainya. Put aside all that insha Allah and let our marriage be based not on the material worldly things, meaning to put all that as our guidance/ penentu in our marriage. Kalau takde ni maka tak happy contoh.
Lebih dekat dgn Allah dr segi ilmu, dpt memupuk diri dgn akhlak2 yg baik, tawakal dan lebih bertaqwa spt disarankan dlm Quran. Utk mengingatkan dri yg suami bukan segala2galanya tetapi hanya salah satu cara utk kita lebih dekat kpd Allah kerana jikalau kita bergantung pd manusia sepenuhnya we will be broken easily cos we are depending on someone name human who is created weak.
Contoh: jikalau suami buat sesuatu dan kita marah sgt, dan tak mkn 1 hari, maksudnya suami yg menjadi penentu hidup kita, padahal we suppose to live for Allah. Kalau tak mkn, takde tenaga utk buat benda2 atau keje yg kita harapkan pahala, atau solat tak kusyuk atau nampak org lain muka nak masam je mcm salah org lain pulak, so it doesn't serve the purpose cos we suppose to sleep eat work etc kerana Allah to gain rewards in our ibadah. Yes we human we have emotion but pray to Allah ask for guidance to let us handle or manage our emotion easier. Tak bermaksud tak mkn so takde tenaga nak solat, just an example to show the consequences.
Having the thought of : yay, after I meet my prince then il be happy forever. That only happens in alam Disney. Reality is new challenges Wil come to test us, again n again. But instead of marrying to think that insha Allah this marriage will make me closer to Islam, be a good wife serving husband as dituntut dlm Islam bla3 is most likely to mean to marry kerana Allah. (I guess)
Do not think that if u don't marry then u can't be a good muslim or be happy, as there are many ways to be a good muslim n to be happy, jus becos u haven't meet ur the other half. U might be only meeting ur the other half in jannah later and not here on earth, who knows. Does that mean ur not gonna be a good muslim till then? Take this opportunity to serve our parents, parents ada 1 je (for those yg single, where u can put more focus on them, it can be a training ground as well..Allah may wana test us b4 we meet our future spouse to make us a better person )
Allah knows best and is the best planner of all. Put ur absolute trust in Him. Again, may look bad in our sight but not in His sight. Let us not focus on the things that we don't have and lari focus to the things we supposed to focus on.
I ni pandai bercakap je and not that im good, just sharing from my point of view yg tak berapa ni."
