愛情36「題」❤️
讓陌生人迅速相愛的36個問題
Time to fall in love?
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《紐約時報》報導:
曼迪·萊恩·卡特隆(Mandy Len Catron)為「現代愛情」專欄寫了一篇文章《如何快速與陌生人相愛》,她在文中提到心理學家阿瑟·亞倫(Arthur Aron)等人的研究成果:兩個陌生人之間的親密關係或許可以通過彼此詢問一些特別的個人化問題而快速升溫。這36個問題分為三組,一組比一組來得尋根究底。
這個理論的核心是,共同的脆弱能促進親近感。這項研究的作者們稱:「同伴之間發展親密關係的關鍵模式在於持續、逐步升級、相互且個人化的袒露自我。」允許自己和另一個人共享脆弱可能非常困難,下面這個練習能迫使你做到這一點。
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Set I 第一組 ❤️
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
如果可以在世界上所有人中任意選擇,你想邀請誰共進晚餐?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
你想成名嗎?想以什麼方式成名?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
打電話之前你會先排練一下要說什麼嗎,為什麼?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
對你來說,「完美」的一天是什麼樣的?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
你上次自己唱起歌來是在什麼時候,給別人唱呢?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
如果你能活到90歲,同時可以一直保持30歲時的心智或身體,你會選擇保持哪一種呢,心智還是身體?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
你是否曾經秘密地預感到自己會以怎樣的方式死去?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
說出三件你和你的伴侶看上去相同的特徵。
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
人生中的什麼東西最令你感激?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
如果你能改變被撫養成人過程中的一件事,會是哪一件。
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
花四分鐘時間,儘可能詳細告訴伴侶你的人生經歷。
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
如果你明天一覺醒來就能擁有某種才能或能力,你希望那會是什麼能力呢?
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Set II 第二組 ❤️❤️
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
如果有一個水晶球可以告訴你關於自己、人生,未來乃至任何事情的真相,你會想知道嗎?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
有沒有什麼事是你一直夢想去做而沒有去做的,為什麼沒有做?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
你人生中最大的成就是什麼?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
在一段友誼之中你最珍視的是什麼?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
你最寶貴的記憶是什麼?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
你最糟糕的記憶是什麼?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
假如你知道自己在一年內就會突然死去,你會改變現在的生活方式嗎?為什麼?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
友誼對於你來說意味着什麼?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
愛與情感在你生活中扮演着什麼樣的角色?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
和你的伴侶輪流說出心目中對方的一個好品質,每人說五條。
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
你的家人之間關係是否親密而溫暖,你覺得自己的童年比其他人更快樂嗎?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
你和母親之間的關係是怎樣的?
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Set III 第三組 ❤️❤️❤️
25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “
每人用「我們」造三個句子,並含有實際情況,比如「我們倆在屋子裡,感覺……」
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “
補完這個句子:「我希望和某人在一起,分享……」
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
如果你想和對方成為親近的朋友,請告訴對方有什麼重要的事情是他或她需要知道的。
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
告訴對方你喜歡他或她身上的什麼東西,要非常誠實,說些你不會對萍水之交說的東西。
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
和對方分享生命中那些尷尬的時刻。
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
你上次在別人面前哭是什麼時候?自己哭呢?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
告訴對方,你已經喜歡上了他或她身上的什麼品質。
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
你覺得什麼東西是嚴肅到不能開玩笑的,假如有的話。
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
如果你今晚就將死去,而且沒有機會同任何人聯絡,你會因為之前沒有對別人說什麼話而感到遺憾,你為什麼到現在都沒有對他們說這些話呢?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
假設你擁有的全部東西都在你的房子里,現在房子着了火,救出家人和寵物之後,你還有機會安全地衝進去最後一次,取出最後一件東西,你會拿什麼,為什麼?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
你的家人中,誰去世了會令你最難過,為什麼?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
說出一件你的個人問題,問對方如果遇到此事要如何解決。另外,也要讓對方如實告訴你,在他或她眼中,你對於這個問題的感受是怎樣的。
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❤️ 看完這些問題後,會想到哪一部愛情片? ❤️
Tag someone who needs these questions~
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positive sentence 在 謙預 Qianyu.sg Facebook 的最讚貼文
【51歲了,看八字還有用嗎?】
At Age 51, Is Bazi Analysis Still Relevant?
曾經有人問過我類似以上的問題。
我的答案是:人生已過了一半。如果目前沒有您無法解決的難題,對於未來您也沒有什麼想要實現的夢想,不需要指導,那倒不如好好學佛,消業增福,為將來百年歸去時做好準備。
畢竟,無常和明天,不知哪個先到。
提供見證的女客人,年過半百,面對好些家庭問題。我們在今年二月過年前見面。
其中,讓她最頭痛的是與兒子之間的關係。兒子與她說話時,很容易不耐煩,也不聽她的勸告和教導,不像以前會聽完她講整句話。
許多母親遇到這樣的問題,會問我怎樣改善孩子的態度。
我的答案都是:先改變自己。
去改變任何人是很累的事情,也容易吃力不討好。在他的眼裡,會覺得你在逼他。可是,當你能夠改變自己的時候,你身上的磁場會隨之起變化。
人與人之間,喜歡和不喜歡,合與不合,說明了,就是五行的遊戲,磁場碰觸而產生的「火花」。
你的磁場與孩子的磁場不合,源自於你們八字的不合。
想擁有更好的親子關係,玄學上,可採取三種方法:改名、批命,和/或調居家風水。
個人磁場往正確的方向改進,你會發現很多本來不行的事情,突然就通了,不合的人,摩擦也減少了。
當然,如果兩人都願意改變,那就事半功倍了。
女客人說,孩子現在還會跟她開玩笑了。
我指點這位女客人,因為她八字所需,應該常去捐血。她說,2018年體檢報告顯示她有貧血。
可是,這八字不應該有貧血問題的。
我認為是她之前用錯五行,飲食習慣出了岔子。
她見了我後,照著我的話做了一個月,三月時,去做體檢。報告顯示一切正常,她可以捐血。
一個藥,不見得就能醫好所有的人,因為每個人的體質不一樣。一般人會以為喝紅棗茶能補血,所以有這方面的問題,就該多喝。
但在玄學上,這可不一定。對症下藥,在這裡就是要看客人八字而定。
年紀越大的客人,往往越固執,不容易改變自己的看法和作風。有些也因為以前已給不同的師父看過幾次命,更會固執己見。
這位女客人做得到,也真是命不該絕啊!哈~
偶爾,我會遇到客人,在諮詢時詢問關於他們父母的健康。
坦白說,與其東敲西打,如果父母願意,那你倒不如大方點出錢幫自己的父母看命。
真要改善父母的生活,我無法三言兩語就能交代清楚。這樣未免太敷衍你了,可我也不能只收看一個八字的收費卻變成看三個人呀~
客人便會問,孩子與父母,應該先看誰的八字?
一定是父母為先,因為沒有父母就不會有我們。
他們在人間的時間,隨著每一個生日,已逐漸減少。
百善孝為先,這點不要等到母親節才記得。
你真有善功德時,又何愁孩子不受教不成才呢?
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Someone once asked me the question above.
My answer: You have lived half your life. If there is no insurmountable issue at the present and you have no further ambition for the later years, it would be wise to focus on the Dharma diligently to eradicate your karma and prepare for your eventual passing.
After all, you cannot tell which will come first, tomorrow or death.
The female client who provided this testimonial is past 50 years of age and faced plenty family issues. The one which pained her the most is her relationship with her son. Her son is impatient when talking to her and does not heed her advice and teachings, unlike in the past when he would at least hear her finish her sentence.
Many mothers who faced the same dilemma would ask me for ways to improve the attitude of their children.
My answer to them all: Change yourself first.
To change another person is a tiring chore and often goes unappreciated. In the eyes of the other person, he would feel that you are forcing him. But when you can change yourself, the energy fields of your body will start to transform.
The dynamics in a relationship, simply put, is a game of the five elements and the chemistry reaction that arise when two energy fields come together.
The incompatibility in energy fields between you and your child stems from both of your Bazi.
From the Chinese Metaphysics viewpoint, there are three ways to improve the parent-child relationship: Change of the Chinese name, Bazi Analysis and/or alter the Feng Shui of your house.
As you change your own energy field in the positive direction, new paths will open up for problems seemingly hard to resolve and conflicts lessen with people whom you could not get along with.
Of course things would improve doubly quick if both parties are willing to change.
The female client told me that her child could even joke with her now.
I advised her, based on her Bazi, to donate blood regularly. She said a health examination in 2018 revealed that she was anaemic. But this Bazi should not have such a condition. I believe that was due to her using the wrong elements as well as her dietary habits.
She followed my advice for a month, and a health check in March showed that all was well and that she could donate blood.
One type of medicine does not necessarily work for everyone as all of us have different disposition. Most people would assume that drinking red dates tea improves anaemia.
But from the perspective of Chinese Metaphysics, this may not work well. The best cure is the one that is customized to the client’s Bazi.
Older clients tend to be more resistant and stubborn to change. Some clung onto their views so tightly due to their many Bazi analysis with different masters.
This client of mine managed to break the resistance to change. This shows that there’s still hope!
Sometimes I would get questions from clients during Bazi consultation asking about their parents’ health.
Honestly, rather than asking bits and pieces, be generous (if you can afford) and pay to have their Bazi read. I am unable to offer real improvements to your parents’ lives with sparse advice here and there. That would be trying to pull a fast one on you but I can’t be analysing 3 Bazi when you only paid for one.
The client will then ask who should be their priority for Bazi analysis: their child or their parents?
Parents. No two-way about this. Where would you be without them?
Their time in this world is dwindling as each birthday passes.
Filial piety is the foremost of all virtues. Don’t remember this only on Mother’s Day.
If you truly can garner merits from your filial piety virtues, why worry that your child will be disobedient and unable to make the mark?
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📈 俐媽英文教室—時態文法用語篇:
⏰ present simple 現在簡單式
⏰ present continuous 現在進行式
⏰ present perfect 現在完成式
⏰ present perfect continuous 現在完成進行式
⏰ past simple 過去簡單式
⏰ past continuous 過去進行式
⏰ past perfect 過去完成式
⏰ past perfect continuous 過去完成進行式
⏰ future simple 未來簡單式
⏰ future continuous 未來進行式
⏰ future perfect 未來完成式
⏰ future perfect continuous 未來完成進行式
🕰 tense (n.) 時態;(a.) 緊繃的;(v.) 使緊繃
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🎯 俐媽英文教室—常見文法用語篇:
🔍 subjunctive mood 假設語氣
🔍 passive voice 被動語態
🔍 positive 原級
🔍 comparative 比較級
🔍 superlative 最高級
🔍 noun clause 名詞子句
🔍 relative clause 關係代名詞子句
🔍 cleft sentence 分裂句
🔍 conditional sentence 條件句
🔍 participle clause 分詞構句
🔍 inversion 倒裝句
🔍 tag question 附加問句
🔍 gerund 動名詞
🔍 infinitive 不定詞
🔍 imperative (mood) 祈使句/語氣
🔍 appositive 同位語
🔍 coordinating conjunction 對等連接詞
🔍 subordinating conjunction 從屬連接詞
🔍 exclamatory sentence 感嘆句
🔍 (five basic) sentence patterns (5大)句型
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positive sentence 在 BlueBerries詭計星的頻道 Youtube 的最佳貼文
You need a refine trick, power of love, friendship, positive thinking, and luck.
My Japanese friend is shy, she can't speak a long sentence, so I prefer you to read the subtitle instead.
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