關於 i need to be in love chord ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

Azmi and I recently took part in the Downbelow x Rip Curl Marine Conservation Program 2017: a joint event between Downbelow Marine & Wildlife Adventures and Rip Curl Malaysia with the objective to raise awareness, educate, and encourage action towards the global problem of marine debris and the importance of preserving our coral reefs.

This event was fully sponsored by the Downbelow & Rip Curl partnership and was held on the 19th of November, 2017 at Downbelow PADI 5 Star IDC Dive Centre in Tunku Abdul Rahman Marine Park, Sabah Borneo. We were amongst the 100 participants who took part in this marine conservation activity on-site and BOY! Did we have fun!

Anybody can be an ocean hero irrespective of whether you are a scuba diver, snorkeler or non-swimmer, all you need to take part is a desire to make a difference. Marine conservation activities are fun and a heroes way of life is rewarding !

ALL proceeds went to the AWARE Project as well as the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals Kota Kinabalu (SPCAKK). I LOVE my furry animals, so this struck a chord with me and I will be working closer with SPCAKK to encourage more folks to choose to adopt than to buy a new pet from the store.

Love and light everyone... Hope you enjoy this vlog of ours. Some important facts here. Please do spread the video if you are into marine conservation and helping animal shelters too ok?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zdKrrZy-ufk&t=25s

【孩子的心理平安】

You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.

I laughed as I read this quote by Franklin Jones.

Without fail, almost every lesson, this 7-year-old boy would gamely walk up to me and bellow, "老師，我好喜歡你啊！" (Teacher, I like you so much!)

He was rather tall and big for his age. Last week, he gave me a bear hug out of the blue, nearly knocking me over like a bowling pin.

To encourage him to speak more Mandarin, I engaged him in a conversation and asked, "你爲什麼那麽喜歡李老師？" (Why do you like me so much?)

He chirped excitedly with his toothy grin, "因爲你很漂亮！" (Because you are very pretty!)

I don't know whether to cry or to laugh.

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This Facebook comment from Madam Teo struck a chord with me:

"我們用很長很長很長的時間把自己或孩子「弄壞」，然後期待以非常簡潔廉價的方式拿回那已經長茧的健康心理。"

We used a very very very long period of time to damage ourselves or our children. Then we look forward to reclaim that once healthy mindset, which is now infested with worms, with very cheap, easy and clean methods.

It is extremely hard to be a parent, much less a capable one.

Sometimes, there is nothing more ego tripping than trying to be a good parent.

Recently, I got hold of this book and the foreword written by a magazine editor, who is a working mum of two, was particularly insightful, and somewhat poignant.

She wrote:

從孩子一出生開始，我們爲人父母者的腦子裡就會出現兩個字：教育。我們希望通過「教育」讓孩子知書達理、令行禁止、敏而好學、從善如流。我們希望通過「教育」來塑造我們和孩子之間良好的關係⋯⋯祇是，「教育」二字帶來的強大使命感和緊迫感讓我們忽略了這樣的事實：我們與孩子之間先有關係，後有教育，我們首先是一個生命與另一個生命的親密組合，其次才是一個生命幫助另一個生命成爲更好的自己（且不論究竟是誰幫誰）。

From the beginning of a child's birth, the word that appears in the brains of us parents would be "education".

We hope that through "education", our children will be highly cultured and steeped in propriety, obey orders, smart and fond of studying, and follow good advice readily.

We wish that through "education", we build good relations with our children.

Thing is, the strong sense of mission and urgency, drummed by the word "education", often causes us to neglect this fact: We first have a relationship with our children, before education comes in.

We and our children, are essentially an intimate combination of one life with another life.

Secondly, it is then about one life helping another life to become a better version of himself/herself. (Let's not talk about who is actually helping who.)

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These got me thinking about my work and my clients.

How some of them would move homes to be near the desired schools for their offspring.

How they send their kids to many many enrichment classes.

How they work very hard (some become SAHMs) to have better abilities to groom and nurture their children for their future.

They share the same aspiration as the magazine editor. It is no secret that most Singaporean parents take education very seriously. Instead of the phrase Tiger Mum, in Singapore, we call ourselves Lion Mums. #MajulahSingapura *mane flick*

When a male client came back seeking my Feng Shui service, I asked him why. I asked every client why by the way. It is my method of understanding my appeal to my market.

He told me he got favourable results since our Bazi consultation. His little girl getting into the school of their first choice was one reason.

It was a casual mention then when he told me about the school application. Through him, I learnt about the stress parents go through to get their children enrolled in the right schools. Out of empathy, I asked for his daughter's birth details and did a quick calculation to see if their preferred school was a good choice for her Bazi. Just because the parents like a particular school, does not mean the child will really benefit and be happy studying there.

Jackpot, it was great for the little girl. I gave my client some tips to secure the coveted spot in that school. It was a little extra bonus I gave him beyond the usual Bazi consultation. He had been mildly supportive of my work and remained polite, when I pointed out his areas to improve in our interactions.

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More than once, clients have asked me if they can move homes to be near a particular school, for the sake of their children.

My answer is:

Always consider your marriage and livelihood first.

The energies in our living environment can either nurture us or break us. Not all houses are made equal.

If you are in a bad luck cycle, pretty sure you would know it without a fortune teller telling you, chances are you would be attracted to a house of poor Feng Shui. For without the intervention of a Feng Shui practitioner, the state of our Bazi determines the kind of Feng Shui we will naturally get.

The husband is considered the master of the house. While grooming our children is essential, you shouldn't compromise on the husband's career by moving into a house of lousy Feng Shui, just so that the child can register into your dream school.

Money woes, stagnant growth and loss of direction/drive in life can nail a stake into an otherwise happy family.

Last I know, broken families and highly strung parents are never recommended ingredients for happy and emotionally secure children.

The more family members there are, the more delicate my job is. To ensure every family member gets to benefit from great Feng Shui, within the constraints of a house, is always the most challenging part of my job.

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Parents are the first and most intimate teachers of a child.

If a child does not have good role models to look up to at home, sending them to good schools will not have the desired impact as you crave.

Why?

Your DNA runs in the blood cells of your child. Say if you are a lazy person, who has a strong sense of entitlement, it is very likely your child's character will mirror yours. No matter what school he or she is in.

Because a child spends more time at home, with the family, than with his or her teachers.

Parenting is made even more challenging, if the father or mother lacks certain mental nourishment in his or her growing up years and is unable to repair and replenish himself or herself during the adulthood.

The deficient parent would not know how to give those nutrients to his or her child. And a vicious cycle ensues.

At different ages, a child will need different mental nutrition from the parents. These critical nutrients will form the backbone of the child's attitude in life, towards his or her education, marriage, career, lifestyle, family relations, friendships, money management, virtues and morals, ability to endure hardships, solve problems and pick up knowledge.

These mental nutrients are to be adequately given to the child before the age of 7.

One example of a mental nutrient the author raised in her book is the child's sense of importance.

Every child desires to feel valued by the parents. Especially between 0-3 years old. If the parents are emotionally unavailable and does not show to the child that he or she is very important to them, the child will instinctively seek this nutrient from another replacement adult.

Could be the grandparents or school teachers.

If he or she never manage to find this sense of being highly valued, he or she will spend his whole life looking for it.

They may fall in love with someone while still in secondary school, hoping that their partner will see them as the most important person in their lives.

As they get older, they will pester their partner with questions like:

• Am I the most important person in your life?
• How important am I?
• If I am a very terrible person, have a very bad character, will you still love me?

...

A quest like this consumes a lot of life energies for both persons in such a relationship. The child may over compromise on himself or herself in a relationship, just to be (the illusion of being) wanted and loved.

Over the past 11 years, I've worked with enough children and adults to see the truth in this author's comprehensive analysis.

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When I do story telling to children, I tend to omit violence. For e.g. if the bad guy is caught and killed, I may modify the plot by saying that he is caught and thrown into prison.

I don't want the children to think that killing another person solves everything. There are already young boys, who go around the class shooting finger guns at their classmates and teachers, and calling it "fun".

While a good school makes a lot of difference, I also think attending religious classes is valuable for young children.

A child who only attends classes for self development will not learn enough to have the motivation to help others. Because those classes focus on his personal success, how to win the race, and not how he can help and love beyond his family and friends. Much less about how to break free from the endless wheel of reincarnation.

Some parents will tell me, they don't want to force their children into a religion at such a young age.

The dramatic irony when they "force" their child to go for tutition after tuition.

Sending your child to Buddhism lessons or Sunday school does not equate to coercing the child into a religion.

Religious classes build deep mental strength at a very different dimension from secular classes.

It teaches gratitude, altruism, compassion, karma, humility, filial piety, repentance (being able to admit you're wrong), precepts (do the right thing) and internal peace.

It shows the child the beauty of forgiveness and forbearance.

Religion also nourishes the child's soul by letting him or her know how important he or she is in the eyes of God, Buddha etc.

The child learns to make sense of the world he is living in and the purpose of his existence.

Jesus was betrayed, tortured and died on the cross. He spreaded the Gospel for only 12 short years. Buddha's blood-related disciple, Devadatta, plotted to kill Him with a drunk elephant but failed. He spoke poison of Buddha and eventually left Buddha, taking away with him 500 monks.

These are all extraordinary men who endured incredible hardships for Their cause. They, as with many great prophets, are the superheroes of Their time.

Thousands of years later, They withstood the test of time and are still highly revered all over the world.

Are Their stories not worth reading to our children? Is there nothing our children can learn from Them, to cope with the stress they will face?

Children don't tell us parents everything. By establishing this spiritual channel of communication, we cross our fingers (and toes) that our precious ones will not go leaping off from their room's window when things are rocky for them and they feel invalidated.

You should still allow the child to choose his or her own faith when they grow up. At least by then, you have built a (hopefully) good foundation of love, strength and empathy in your child when you had the chance to.

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Proactive parents come to me to get their children's Bazi analysed, because they want to understand their children better and propel them in the right direction of growth.

They wish that their children can live a life more fulfilling than theirs, without having to fall too much.

If religion and Chinese Metaphysics aren't your cup of Teh Tarik, then I highly recommend this book that I am reading.

It is an equally good book for a "malnourished" adult to understand himself or herself.

I couldn't find it in Singapore bookstores, so the Husband bought my copy from an online Malaysia bookstore.

There are many Q&As in this book for parents with real-life problems in managing their children. The author gave very sensible and feasible recommendations. These were complied from the author's monthly column in the magazine and her 10,000+ strong real-life case studies.

Most people don't get to unleash their life potential this lifetime, because they lack the mentors and the mental nourishment to realise the powers of their Bazi.

Some of them blame their parents. But there is only so long you can blame them. How long more do you want to put your happiness in the hands of your parents? For the next 60 years? Perhaps like you, they didn't have parents who are adept at giving them the mental nourishment.

I don't think it matters whether you repair yourself when you are an adult or you, as a parent, only realise now what you have been doing wrong.

As long as we are willing to change and improve, we can always make up for lost time.

Better late than never.

...

《心理营养》

林文采 / 伍娜 / Shanghai Academy of Social Science Press / 288页 / Hardcover / 2016-3-1

心理营养的内容简介：

正如身体的健康需要物质营养，孩子心灵的成长与心理力量的强大必须获取足够的心理营养。

在成长的不同阶段，给足孩子恰当的心理营养，也就给了他一生幸福的底层代码。

本书中，作者阐述了“心理营养”的理念，同时介绍了气质理论在亲子教育中的应用。结合“心理营养”的理念和气质理论，作者从12个方面全方位回答了父母育儿中的常见问题。

五大心理营养：无条件的接纳；此时此刻，我生命中你最重要；安全感；肯定、赞美、认同；学习、认知、模范。

生命中的“五朵金花”：爱的能力；独立自主；联结；价值感；安全感。

12个方面的问题：
安全感 •情绪管理 •性格难题 •行为偏差 •社交与社会化 •夫妻关系 •妈妈的自我成长和支持 •父亲养育 •隔代养育 •性教育 •疑难表现 •其他生活琐事

以下Classic me-style回應紫薯MaMa深夜聊天室的各位煩惱／心事：

1. 唔明白一直冇拖拍算唔算人格缺陷? 感覺上我可以想像到同人拖拖手攬攬之類 但交換口水blablabla令我覺得好嘔心 當然另一個問題係本身冇人鐘意 by23年單身小薯妹

MaMa：Girrrrrl. You don't need anyone in your life. Kissing is gross. Ew. Love yourself, use super red lipsticks. 🌹

2. 👀想學樂器但係零基礎譜都唔識睇，想報班啲學員又咁後生覺得90年咁老餅好尷尬

MaMa: 90年老餅？我Dad 60後都新學wor，inbox我比吉他sir contact 你。Why you needa care what other ppl think? THEY AINT GOT NOTHING ON YOU.

3. broke up with my boyfd

MaMa: Find yourself. Hugs. Cry. Read a book. If he's an asshole, try to smile. If he's a prince, cry and reflect why he's gone. Girrrrrl YOU ARE WORTH IT.

4. mama, 我希望佢多啲睬返我 :(

MaMa: 你要passive aggressive用不同計謀讓那個人心思思自己要搵你哦。

5. 請問mama可在新碟裡面加上chord嗎😖😖 真的很期待新碟呢😖😖😖 我是你的超級fans

MaMa：maybe I put them on my website later #LazyAF www.serrini.rocks

6. 鍾意左一個人，佢係你fans，因為我介紹你俾佢識😹但佢有有拍拖了，而我都知唔會同佢有機會，星期六會睇你場show呀，可唔可以點唱不知道甚麼時候？thanks

MaMa: No 點唱as always，你自己係佢耳邊唱比佢聽啦。我很久以前寫了一首歌叫《你額頭點解無鑿上「我有女朋友」FUCK》, I think I know how you feel.

7. 我明天打第二針化療，是次已是復發而且拡散的了，不過一息尚存都要頂硬上，只怪自己不愛惜自己，上FB只為減壓。

MaMa: HUGS and may all heavens bless you will all graces and happiness on earth. 加油，上FB可以睇meme page好開心的。抱抱。

8. My ex boyfriend's ex girlfriend was the 表姐 of shiga lin. Ex gf flirt my boyfriend a lot at that time so i hate her so much. (And then i hate shiga lin as well lol) So stupid but that's just my feeling hhahahahah

MaMa： BUT WHO'S THE GF NOW HUH. Do that "BITCH YOU BETTER GET YO HANDS OFF MAH MAN" attitude. Also, is she a fake ass bitch? if so, don't hesitate to be super passive aggressive cox GIRL it's fun. Make sure your BF knows how you feel too and if he doesnt care, I guess time for a new boyfriend <3 Yas.

9: 話說我上次已經寫過一次xd（不過應該唔會記得掛）anyway咁我一個高中既小薯仔就鍾意左個今年畢業又啱啱搵到女朋友本身又唔係好熟既師兄 （然後我勁鐘意聽不知道什麼時候 跟著emo d就會聽忘鳥愛）咁leh我終於同左佢表白!! 我果日病到個人wing wing地跟著send whatsapp同佢講左 點知佢第一個reaction係“好親切友善體貼“咁問我 你係咪比人玩電話 ＝＝ 跟著後尾要忍住想搵窿捐既心情同佢慢慢澄清 不過佢最後都仲好nice咁同我傾左幾句之後見到仲肯教我野 無敵超級好人同nice 真係抵我鐘意左佢咁耐 打左好耐搞到好似冇人show你咁lol sorry

MaMa: 鐘意人der感覺super cool right，然後對方講mud都是nice，小心nice到讓你越來越不能自拔and become dependent. GIRL you have to find yourself.

大家啊，＃抒發感情才是意義

<3

(Lyrics)
oh sweet caffeine to start the day,
always loved cafes but yours was not the same,
you've got me feeling some kind of way,
a kind that wont just stay & stray away

she’s,
the girl of my dreams,
she’s so sweet,
my caramel cream
each time,
i sip, i rewind
i can’t believe,
she’s outta my dreams

stayed up all night to count the stars,
played a wrong chord on this guitar,
and i know you wouldn’t mind,
if our fingers intertwined,
and i hope you work on us like overtime

i need to know,
if you hear this on the radio,
oh let me know
if you’re sat there on your telephone
and now im wondering,
if i’m living in a fantasy,
cause now it seems to be,
you’re the only one i see

Caramel Cream (Official Music Video) by Midnight Fusic
Composed by Midnight Fusic & Pijar
Lyrics by Arif Kamarudin & Adrian Danial
Produced by Midnight Fusic & Pijar


Director : Thaqif Saadon
Assistant Director : Hakeem Zolhaidi
Director Of Photography : Wan Sharin Wan Ramli
Art Director : Jabir Atan, Shahir
Production Assistant : Faris
Talent : Mia Sara Shauki
Gaffer : Rahamad Akmal
Key Grip : Shafiq
Editor : Thaqif Saadon
Production : Atypical Visual
Make Up: Marissa Razli


Listen to “Caramel Cream” on Spotify : https://lnk.to/CaramelCreamAY/spotify
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#CaramelCream (Official Music Video) performed by #MidnightFusic


© 2019 Sony Music Entertainment Malaysia Sdn Bhd
All rights reserved. Unauthorised reproduction is a violation of applicable laws.

(LYRICS)
oh sweet caffeine to start the day,
always loved cafes but yours was not the same,
you've got me feeling some kind of way,
a kind that wont just stay & stray away

she’s,
the girl of my dreams,
she’s so sweet,
my caramel cream
each time,
i sip, i rewind
i can’t believe,
she’s outta my dreams

stayed up all night to count the stars,
played a wrong chord on this guitar,
and i know you wouldn’t mind,
if our fingers intertwined,
and i hope you work on us like overtime

i need to know,
if you hear this on the radio,
oh let me know
if you’re sat there on your telephone
because i'm wondering,
if i’m living in a fantasy,
cause now it seems to be,
you’re the only one i see



Caramel Cream by Midnight Fusic
Composed by Midnight Fusic, Pijar
Lyrics by Adrian Danial, Arif Kamarudin
Produced by Midnight Fusic, Pijar


Listen to “Caramel Cream" on Spotify : https://lnk.to/CaramelCreamAY/spotify
Listen to “Caramel Cream" on Apple Music : https://lnk.to/CaramelCreamAY/applemusic

Follow Midnight Fusic!
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/midnightfusic/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/midnightfusic/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/midnightfusic


Caramel Cream (Audio) performed by Midnight Fusic


© 2019 Sony Music Entertainment Malaysia Sdn Bhd
All rights reserved. Unauthorised reproduction is a violation of applicable laws.

Azmi and I recently took part in the Downbelow x Rip Curl Marine Conservation Program 2017: a joint event between Downbelow Marine & Wildlife Adventures and Rip Curl Malaysia with the objective to raise awareness, educate, and encourage action towards the global problem of marine debris and the importance of preserving our coral reefs.


This event was fully sponsored by the Downbelow & Rip Curl partnership and was held on the 19th of November, 2017 at Downbelow PADI 5 Star IDC Dive Centre in Tunku Abdul Rahman Marine Park, Sabah Borneo. We were amongst the 100 participants who took part in this marine conservation activity on-site and BOY! Did we have fun!

Anybody can be an ocean hero irrespective of whether you are a scuba diver, snorkeler or non-swimmer, all you need to take part is a desire to make a difference. Marine conservation activities are fun and a heroes way of life is rewarding !

ALL proceeds went to AWARE Project as well as the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals Kota Kinabalu (SPCAKK). I LOVE my furry animals, so this struck a chord with me and I will be working closer with SPCAKK to encourage more folks to choose to adopt than to buy a new pet from the store.

Love and light everyone... Hope you enjoy this vlog of ours. Some important facts here. Please do spread the video if you are into marine conservation and helping animal shelters too ok?


Music by Philip E Morris https://soundcloud.com/philipemorris

Music by Joakim Karud https://soundcloud.com/joakimkarud
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